Ronald the Bu– er.. Street Musician
His skin was weathered and clothes were torn, but the feeling with which he played told me that he really was a street musician, and not just a bum. The music really mattered to him. I put the sandwitch next to him on the bench, and sat down tentatively, beginning to eat mine. When he finished his song, he thanked me kindly. We got to talking, and I found out he had led a very interesting life. His parents were in the millitary, so they moved around a lot. He said he never really had a home, instead he roamed around the country on buses and trains playing his music on the street to survive. Currently he had settled to Lawrence for the time being staying at the homeless shelter, which is relatively nice. It’s unconventional, but it’s an honest living and a lifestyle choice, and I see that as perfectly legitimate, and I told him so. He truly was content with life which is more than many of us home-ful (haha) people can say.
However, his life was by no means glamorous. He looked to be in his 50’s and recently he had fallen and broken his hip out in the parking lot. He was able to make it to the emergency room and get treated, but standing up for extended periods is a problem which rules out most uneducated work options. The shelter is filled with drunks and druggies (both of which he abstains from), so peace and privacy are unlikely. He had no wife, kids, or other family. He did have friends at the shelter, though, and one of them even stopped to say hi to him as we talked. Every once in a while when got lucky and made a little extra, he would treat himself to a hotel room for the night. Still, there’s no doubt in my mind he was truly happy.
His only regret, he said, was that he would want to make enough money to get an apartment. So, I tried to come up with ideas to help him afford it. For example, Valentines Day was coming up, so I suggested that on the 14th he make a sign that says “Dedications to someone special $2.” He would have made a killing! The idea was unthinkable. “That’s pan-handling!” he said, “I would never have a sign.” Even though, he was homeless he still had an idea of dignity and pride, that he holds to dearly. I guess that was more important to him than having his own apartment. I could have mentioned other ideas, such as quitting smoking, but I knew they would fall on deaf ears. The bottom line is, he’s content with his simple life, and wasn’t willing to make the effort to improve his circumstances, even though despite his predicament, he still has options.
I think he must be the closest thing to a Buddhist monk I’ve met in person. He was very wise. If you happen to see him, give him a few bucks or buy him a meal. In a strange sort of way, he inspires me.
Do you think this is a valid lifestyle? Is eliminating desire and living a simple life a much easier way to happiness than striving for wealth and power? Did you read this post from my Eager vs. Lazy Attitude post? If so go back and finish it! Haha.
Tony-
Ronald’s story is one that inspires me as well. As someone who is constantly wanting to delve into people’s psyche and experience, I can imagine how worthwhile it felt to learn about someone’s unique life’s view. So much of the time we have a negative stigma about people who do not lead a “normal” lifestyle saying they are lazy or mentally ill. But, you have pointed out that some people possibly may choose this life. I admire his incredible dignity and self worth. Suffering is a relative term, I guess. Just because a person is on the street does not necessarily mean he is unhappy and struggling. This is interesting to think about.
I must say this is my favorite post so far. Even though you flaked on me (haha), I am so thrilled that you got to meet an interesting person that I believe has influenced you for the better. You did what most people fail to do…listen. Listening is an important skill to have and I can definitely say you exhibit this every day.
I enjoyed our conversation about monks the other day. Although their lifestyle is unique, it makes them happy. I believe a simple life may not be the road to happiness for everyone. But, I believe if a simple life makes a person content, then it is their own free will. Great job! I like your analysis and viewpoint.
@Jennifer – Thank you for the well-thought out response. You too are one of the best listeners I’ve met. That’s the reason people spill their life story even when they first meet you, because they can tell by the look in your eyes that you care. It must be why we get along so well.
You’re right about the stigma around homeless people. I have to be honest, when I walked up to him my heart was racing and I almost chickened out at the last minute. But then I just sat down and listening to him play. He turned out to be one of the nicest people I’ve ever met. Seriously. He could compete with my grandma for that slot, haha!
Damn, Tony.
I’ve always wanted to just stop and talk to a street musician like that… but I’ve never had the guts. Buying the guy a sandwich and sitting down was a good idea. Maybe I’ll try it.
Peoples life stories are so interesting… I read biographies and memoirs constantly, and I love watching documentaries… but I’ve never actually just sat down and asked a stranger like that. I’m impressed.
I do think the guy is living a valid lifestyle. And I will say I have always considered street musicians to be an asset to the community rather than a burden. Street musicians are my favorite thing about Lawrence. They separate creative and inspirational cities like Lawrence from the nondescript suburban grids like Leawood and Keller. (Keller is the city I live in right now).
That being said, his lifestyle does boggle my mind. I just couldn’t be happy that way… especially not sober. There’s too much I want to see, too much I want to study, too much I want to achieve. His isn’t a decision I would ever be happy making, but I definitely admire it nonetheless.
Also, it’s interesting for me that you mentioned monks, as the book I am reading (Self Made Man by Norah Vincent) actually has a chapter in it where the writer lives among monks (supposedly as one of them… also as a man even though she’s not) to study the all-male environment. She winds up finding a lot out about the monks, and it’s very interesting because her description of them really humanized them in my head.
Rolondo actually seems more monk-like than the monks in the book do :p